To love God above all else. Makes sense! But Jesus did not stop there.
To love people – equally important.
If we had to rank the two ourselves I’m sure most would say that order seems about right. God first; people second. And mostly for this reason: People can be difficult to love. Relationships are hard! But if we want to exemplify Christ on this earth, we have to learn how to love people – and love them well!
There’s not a cure all solution on how to do this, but there are practical things you can do to help you love people better.
If someone is gossiping to you about someone else, I guarantee you they are saying something about you behind your back. Even if they are your best friend… gossipers gossip.
Talk good about people to people!
A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends. Prov 16:28
Let’s say I am conversing with a coworker ‘Mary’. In the conversation ‘Steve’ comes up. If Mary begins to ‘gossip’ about Steve you have a job to do – shut it down! The best way to do that is to gossip well. Say something great about that person that you like. This will often disarm the gossip and set the conversation on a positive course.
You build credibility with Mary. That relationship will grow. They will begin to trust you and probably confide in you. Why? Because she knows you won’t talk about her behind your back.
Talk well about people behind their back!
When we have a good thought often we think ‘they already know that’. Guess what? No, they don’t. A lot of us have insecurities whether we admit it or not. So we all want to hear great things about ourselves. So tell me us.
“My spouse looks very pretty/handsome right now”
Let’s admit it: We all like to hear nice things about ourselves.
Side note: Learn how to say thank you. If you’re on the receiving end, please just say thank you and don’t try to justify why they said what they said.
Sometimes, A lot of times Most of the time people just want to be heard. Obviously, you have to use discretion based on the situation but people want to be heard. Stop giving them an answer. Just listen. Let people give you the permission to give advice.
Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak James 1:19